tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7302142022228564326.post8183785999336544760..comments2023-07-25T11:48:39.285-04:00Comments on The Free Motion Quilting Project: Why Snow Globes Make Me SadLeahhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03674869334249298532noreply@blogger.comBlogger21125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7302142022228564326.post-63865974977294295302014-12-11T23:46:41.140-05:002014-12-11T23:46:41.140-05:00Bless you, Leah, for sharing this. You are one awe...Bless you, Leah, for sharing this. You are one awesome, inspiring, talented, insightful, big-hearted lady. I've just begun to forgive my mom over the last few years, and I'm 62, so can fully appreciate what a journey this is and how very far you've come in such a short time. Amazing.Linda Wulf Koenighttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05923385161588309971noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7302142022228564326.post-14389349701868642462014-12-08T19:37:42.580-05:002014-12-08T19:37:42.580-05:00I bet you don't even realize how many people y...I bet you don't even realize how many people you touch with your posts. You are so brave to share so many personal things with us. You are amazing - and you are a great inspiration. Thank you again - for sharing.....Crystlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09003963587568593433noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7302142022228564326.post-20929171301621405392014-12-08T15:41:11.251-05:002014-12-08T15:41:11.251-05:00I'm yet another reader who had to wipe the tea...I'm yet another reader who had to wipe the tears away when I read your story. You are right to finally forgive yourself and rediscover the wonder of snow globes with your little boy.<br />Our mother's unkind comments(and behaviour) can leave a lasting impression on us - way after childhood. <br />Both my parents drank to excess and to this day I cannot abide seeing people out of control and slurry with drinking. Ooops, don't really want to start getting negative especially at this time of year.<br />I enjoy reading your blog, Leah, and all that you share with us. Sending you and your family Christmas Wishes from New Zealand.Jennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13596754983215564299noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7302142022228564326.post-8075987546729577792014-12-08T14:49:23.002-05:002014-12-08T14:49:23.002-05:00God bless you for learning the lesson of forgivene...God bless you for learning the lesson of forgiveness for it is not just for others, but for ourselves as well. May you and your family have a blessed Christmas!Zarihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02701008625520187932noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7302142022228564326.post-51151562431018131572014-12-08T12:00:46.381-05:002014-12-08T12:00:46.381-05:00Forgiveness is such a wonderful gift, and that 10 ...Forgiveness is such a wonderful gift, and that 10 year old little girl deserves it. I'm so happy you are working to do just that, and I am sending that sweet little girl who didn't know how to channel her emotions a giant hug and a kiss on the forehead that says it's okay.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06079419949438956796noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7302142022228564326.post-15833014241964290632014-12-08T10:25:01.439-05:002014-12-08T10:25:01.439-05:00Thank you for sharing this! You are so right, it i...Thank you for sharing this! You are so right, it is time that you forgave yourself. You were ten - if it were anyone else, you would never have held a grudge for 20 plus years. And you were mean only one day, whereas the snow globe broke for forever. It must have felt terrible!<br /><br />Enjoy your new snow globes and treat your childish behaviour with understanding!Tilkunviilaajahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03061874586969591813noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7302142022228564326.post-80684715805612574652014-12-08T10:00:43.570-05:002014-12-08T10:00:43.570-05:00Thank you for sharing. The peace you have helped ...Thank you for sharing. The peace you have helped me find in sharing your personal stories is so big, I am grateful beyond belief. I am 54 with similar experiences and I am still making progress today. I am learning to allow myself not to attend events or be with people who will spring the trigger like a mouse trap. Sometimes I feel I can't avoid it or I kid myself that I can handle it, wrong! That is where forgiveness for being incapable of handling aspects of what my world can dish out, is so miraculous. Without your open honesty I would still feel like I am the only person this happens to. Thank you Leah!Kerrihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17355439382519107029noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7302142022228564326.post-37511026946461635852014-12-08T07:52:16.571-05:002014-12-08T07:52:16.571-05:00I liked this post. I like when you share other asp...I liked this post. I like when you share other aspects of your life. It really all goes in the quilts we make. At least it does for me. And as a fellow temper tantrum thrower (at least as a kid), I'll add my perspective: I was never given the tools to get over my tantrums. My parents just told me to get over it, so get over it I did, by learning to hold it in, which didn't help any more than the shaming you were put through. Holding it in wasn't good either-as an adult I found it very hard to express myself, and that part took years to fix. My step son also had issues when he was a kid, but we taught him a couple of things: that its not wrong to feel upset; to feel free to tell others you are having a bad day and why (so you don't take it out on them); and gave him other ways to deal with the emotion swings (exercising regularly, eating better and pets (pets are awesome for the unconditional love part)). <br /><br />I look back to my kiddo times and wish someone had given me any tools to deal with those rages I went through. I wasn't even allowed to consider that I might be right to feel that way (my siblings would set me off on purpose just to watch). <br /><br />I'm glad you found a way to forgive yourself too. Because that happening in your past helped shaped who you are today. And I rather like who you are today. KathyinMNhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10953321303757307975noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7302142022228564326.post-48327216580306174292014-12-08T05:21:31.858-05:002014-12-08T05:21:31.858-05:00Leah, this is so very very familiar to me, I'v...Leah, this is so very very familiar to me, I've inherited my Dad's anger and frustration, but I have this internal fear that I will end up like my mother, the usual source of his anger and frustration. She died from her alcoholism when I wasn't much older than you in the snow globe incident. I won't say too much more but there were many irresposible moments in our lives together, including a DUI conviction whilst my younger sister and I were in the car (Diana in this story worries me from that angle I must say).<br /><br />I somehow manage to keep my raging tantrums reasonably private but got close to losing it at my sewing guild about 18 months ago which was scary for me. Only my husband really knows the extremity of my anger and it always, always ends in tears too. I'm pretty sure all of our ugly moments stem from childhood so it's so great that you're turning it into a positive for you and James so the anger doesn't perpetuate.pennydoghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09425898433355516938noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7302142022228564326.post-85696389403597397272014-12-08T03:08:04.177-05:002014-12-08T03:08:04.177-05:00It takes a lot to make me tear up, but tear up I d...It takes a lot to make me tear up, but tear up I did reading your story.<br />It is a sad story in what was a dysfunctional situation. <br />Whether we are a child or not we all have a breaking point. Society tells us that anger is bad, but is only how it is expressed. <br />I'm with you on the loud music singing with an equally bad voice!<br />Love to you and your family over the Christmas period<br />Robynqueenofshebahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09634611414488077859noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7302142022228564326.post-3487693281816174012014-12-07T21:49:00.330-05:002014-12-07T21:49:00.330-05:00Oh Leah, I could give you a hug right now. I thin...Oh Leah, I could give you a hug right now. I think so many of us in our age group have memories of being disciplined the same way. I'm so glad things have changed and we are not repeating what we learned as children. We could all use a bit of shaking snow globes and forgiveness. Gingerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16363927407017174685noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7302142022228564326.post-52976230091612975362014-12-07T21:15:55.287-05:002014-12-07T21:15:55.287-05:00OH my - poor little girl back then. Isn't it ...OH my - poor little girl back then. Isn't it AWfuL when you cannot just STOP thinking about some sin or error or moment of bad behavior. You were a little girl. The replacement globe is wonderful!!!!! I wouldn't mind having that one myself! I knew a gal who at the end of the year, wrote out her sins on pieces of paper, then put them in a fancy cut-glass bowl and burned them. The smoke going up meant that those issues were no more! I liked that idea. <br /><br />Happy quiltingElaine Adairhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14664504842156046995noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7302142022228564326.post-19386620620372953072014-12-07T18:49:57.523-05:002014-12-07T18:49:57.523-05:00Wow, I cried. But in a good way. Thank you for sha...Wow, I cried. But in a good way. Thank you for sharing and showing us how to forgive ourselves. Very apt for this time of year. Hugs to James for showing you a way out of the darkness.Lisa Ehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08223393910300108218noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7302142022228564326.post-44400796939510584242014-12-07T17:53:16.122-05:002014-12-07T17:53:16.122-05:00This is so real to me! I also feel a bit down when...This is so real to me! I also feel a bit down when I see a snow globe. For me it isn't a childhood memory but an ex husband memory instead. I love it that you shared this. It made me think I really should try snowglobes again!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01812385470533406859noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7302142022228564326.post-83305543223600625622014-12-07T16:29:46.937-05:002014-12-07T16:29:46.937-05:00What an incredible story that you have shared - so...What an incredible story that you have shared - so true and honest. Your anguish comes through in your words. We all have those memories that are hard to look in the face. You are so courageous in telling yours with honesty. <br />Christmas is a wonderful holiday, but not all our memories of it are happy ones. This was a very profound memory and insight. Thank you. greeneggshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07796416048408258311noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7302142022228564326.post-26196624072160902122014-12-07T14:57:08.324-05:002014-12-07T14:57:08.324-05:00Oh I so understand Funky Kim! Perpetual unhappines...Oh I so understand Funky Kim! Perpetual unhappiness is a dangerous state to be in and it's catching. These days I'm really careful to be around women who tend to catch a case of the bitchiness. Who wants to listen to all that crap? I'd much rather turn on some loud music and sing out my frustration (rather badly I admit) than stirring it up with someone else. Sorry to make you cry today!Leahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03674869334249298532noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7302142022228564326.post-49449136251938034742014-12-07T14:53:36.704-05:002014-12-07T14:53:36.704-05:00Actually I'd say it's far easier to write ...Actually I'd say it's far easier to write it all out than store this story and the shame for the last 21 years! It's actually a relief! I think having a daily forgiveness ritual is something my family will build from this holiday going forward. Forgive one another, forgive ourselves, let it go and be happier for it!Leahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03674869334249298532noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7302142022228564326.post-29670703069951882852014-12-07T14:52:27.632-05:002014-12-07T14:52:27.632-05:00I'm so sorry to make you cry today Tine, but i...I'm so sorry to make you cry today Tine, but it was so nice to write this and get it off my chest. Yes, we are loving the new globe and I think it's even more magical now to use it as a reminder for forgiveness.Leahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03674869334249298532noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7302142022228564326.post-3080734940725405352014-12-07T14:48:12.143-05:002014-12-07T14:48:12.143-05:00Oh my goodness! There are tears running down my fa...Oh my goodness! There are tears running down my face! I have read your blog for a while now. I love looking at all the detail you put into your quilting. I have yet to quilt anything, but I love looking at quilts.<br /><br />And now today you touched a deep part of my soul that I didn't realize was still hurting down there. My mother also had a Diana. I'm thankful that there wasn't the added ingredient of alcohol in their relationship, but they spent hours together, bitching about everything. And after the bitchfest, it took a while to get over being that bitchy about everyone and everything. I have always felt a little adrift, having known no one else whose mother was like that. g<br /><br />I dare say this is one reason I don't have a close friend I share everything with. Because I am imprinted with close friends are dangerous as they make you bitchy.<br /><br />I hope you enjoy that snowglobe with your son to the fullest!Funky Kimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07698440391001511729noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7302142022228564326.post-60501802452239180332014-12-07T14:13:31.390-05:002014-12-07T14:13:31.390-05:00Very touching story Leah, I know it must have diff...Very touching story Leah, I know it must have difficult to put out there in writing for all to see. I appreciate your honesty. This also reminded me that I, like you, tend to punish myself over and over for mistakes made years ago that, most likely no one but me remembers. <br />Thank you for reminding me that we can become our own worst enemy and we must forgive ourselves for those things in the past and leave them there where they belong.cindyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16132323291489569677noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7302142022228564326.post-70102219019429060812014-12-07T14:10:11.352-05:002014-12-07T14:10:11.352-05:00Dear Leah, I read your story with tears in my eyes...Dear Leah, I read your story with tears in my eyes, and my thought was that you have to forgive yourself. You were 10 years old, and kind of alone, and I think most 10 year old children would do the same. You are absolutely right about the fact that we must learn to forgive, forget and releasing our self from our childhood. I absolutely hope for you that you can enjoy the snow globe with your son in the years to come. I really enjoy all of your posts, and I love the new ones where you share a bit of your everyday life. Take care and have a merry christmas! Love from Tine/DenmarkTine - Design By Thttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07687764598758108996noreply@blogger.com